The Sacrifice of Angels.

The birth of a younger sister. The onset of a new intimate relationship. These are moments which should be cherished and remembered for as long as you live. Moving moments like these don't happen everyday; but for each and every single day that you remember and appreciate them you make them last just that little bit longer.

There was a saying that went, "Fortune favours the Bold,". It was Machiavellian, and I believe to some extent..that there is some truth to it. Fortune doesn't come knocking all the time, but when it does you should be prepared. Luck is opportunity meeting steadfast preparation(s). Embrace your good fortune and when possible spread some of it around. Good things do come back to you even if it does take a while.

The hardest part about being happy is that you have to remember how bad it felt when you were sad. Only then will be able to find a median of modesty, a bridge between the eclectic and the macabre. There are days when Fortuna (as Machievelli calls her) is constantly by your side and try as you may, everything seems to work out for the better. There are also days when Fortuna takes a vacation, and leaves you all by your lonesome to fend for yourself; a test of your bravery against the tides of uncertainty.

It is in these moments of time; the sacrifice of angels as they called it once, that a man truly finds himself. To be able to look into the abyss only to find that it is his own soul staring back at him. We have all gone through these disturbing moments at least once, in our lives. Remember that no matter how bad your days seem at any point in time, the solitary white cloud isn't far behind.

As our esteemed writers have said in their previous posts, it is truly a magnificent event to witness the birth of a child and the birth of a new and wondrous relationship. It is a moment of pure bliss when you realise that in just a short moment, you have gone through an epiphany; a series of events which before meant nothing to you..suddenly reveals itself in great clarity.
Some call it "Maktub". Others just call it "Luck".

Enjoy your stint at happiness; and I think I speak for all of us here at "M.A.H" when I say,

"Don't forget to spread the cheer!"

:)

Theres something in life that you will not get what you always wanted. But even if so, you will get it..All you need to do is be calm, patience and presevere. Anything in life i presume. Perhaps some people would get their way easily, perhaps some dont really got it as planned.

I never have planned when or limit myself in my love life. Maybe in other aspect of life I do set goals and limits. When it comes to Love... Its endless limits. What I mean by it is, dont rush. I might look rushing or desperate before, but i wasnt. Maybe just being me sometimes gives bad impression to other people.

Yups...I know I've been single for almost 3 years. I had fun actually, but iM looking forward for the "new" life I just encounter. It will be more exciting really. I never felt this feeling before to any other girls before. I finally can share my happiness and my stories with her!!.. =) Maybe some little crushes and some scandalous relationships before but I definately sure, my decision to go serious with My love now is the right one!!.. I know I'm faraway but you got to do some sacrifices in any relationships afterall..

The intimacy still can be done even if you are far from your love one. Not by just touching or visual contact, even nowadays you can do visual contact really, just switched on you webcam and you could see each other.. Even better if you have 3G phones. Can call her anywhere you are and still keep the visual contact and also you could hear and speak to her!!... Not all can afford 3G phones which is still expensive, maybe webcam will be a best bet. If you dont have any webcams or internet connections, can always call her from the public phones or maybe sent her flowers, just to let her know how important she is in your life, and how much you misses her and love her.

Always asked about her, hows her day? have she eaten? always listen and be more caring to you love ones. Say I love you when you really meant it... and the most important thing is to make her smile and happy being in love with you. And you too ought to be the same.. Trust me...You will feel happy with this simple pleasures....


I love u sayangg


=)

*Eddie...hope you could write or rewrite about your simple pleasures article!!

Shes always be my sister

Congratulations Maliek!!!... You're gonna be a big brother soon!!...I remembered when I first got my sister when I was 4 and I was so happy to get a sister. Well..at first I thought that I would get a brother and play basketball together ( I didnt even know what Basketball then when the doctor said about having a partner in Basket ball game....i dont even know how to play basketball!!)...but iM gratefull that I've been blessed with my Sister!..

We used to be so close. I remembered when we went to a party (when we were small and My brother is still a baby) , some guy were chasing after me, we were chasing around and my sister would chase him back and hit his head with a toy hammer!!... She thought I was in trouble or something... And I know sometimes without knowing...I did bullied her in some ways... Well..Im the ELDEST.. I know i wasnt that a good person..but i was young and I couldnt appreciate these simple pleasures!..

My sister is someone that will reminds me, whenever i go out with a girl, I would always remember that, she is a sister of someone and of course, her siblings won't like someone else treating her badly...Because i Dont like others to treat my sister badly or somthing happened to her... She sometimes will give me some dating tips on how to go and "get" a girl!!... But sometimes she can just be sooooo BLUR!!...but shes still my sister!!

Now, shes all grown up, seeing her with her friends, and also boyfriend(s). Sometimes i would bring her along hanging out with my friends just dont wanna her to feel bored staying at home. I miss her really.. Hope shes doing fine..

I know one day, she will be going off to start her own family, following her husband... But I will still love her no mater what..because.. SHE's My sister..the ONLY sister i Have!...

I never Had...

I never had a sister...


That doesn’t mean much to most of you... but it interestingly started playing on my mind.... the greatest feminine influence on my life has been my mother... my Queen....


Other than that its been a testosterone fueled kinda life.... I guess I’ve had it easy... so many times I’ve looked into my friends eyes and see in them the distant wonder of where there sisters were.... what kinda evil was being plotted against them by men... and with coming of age.... it worsened... the first dates, late nite calls and callers.... the uncertainty....


All these thoughts and feelings were alien to me... until I heard abt her...

my little yet to be born angel.... and suddenly, I feel all weird and a lifetime of emotions come rushing in.... I am a godfather [Don.Ma.le.ik] ... Now I begin to understand the overwhelming joy of a princess in my life... and sometimes I now get that distant look of hope that she will grow up safe.... and loved and outta the evil plots of wandering men....


So for her sake I will try to be a better man... make my world a better place so she can grow up and know the true essence of a man's love....

Smiling the whole day!

Some people belief in long distance relationship, and some don't. I haven't gone through a long distance relationship before. So I don't really know.

I told my friends, Eddie and Tuty, that I came back from UK single and I go back to UK single too... But 2 weeks after my departure, I found my love and I don't anticipate it to be that fast. The ironic part of it is, my love is back in Malaysia while Im stucked here with this awfully crazy English weather!!.. And I guess that I fall in the catagory long distance relationship!.. (will get back onto it in a bit)

I've never loved or being loved back since my last break up 3 years ago. All the while, I was dating around, meeting new people all the time, going to clubs with Eddie and yea.. we didnt got hitched with anyone but we end up having fun Club hopping till wee morningss... If i DID fall in love, its either shes in love with someone else or just sees me as her friend!... To say the words, to let go my feeling to the one iM in Love now was kinda hard at first, but at the end... She loves me too!!...

Maybe I was scared of the rejection bit... but past experiences made the rejection feeling something that is normal...

Seriously... I was smiling the whole day!!...Happy...feeling that i could fly high up to the skies!!...knowing that my love is accepted!... Like the Malay saying " Cinta tak bertepuk sebelah tangan" .... I missed the feeling of being in love and and being loved back!.... And now I'm getting it again!...Damn....cant describe how happy i AM

So...I can say, my status now is Long distance relationship. And now...I have something to look forward to next year when i get back to Malaysia...

If you are reading this... i love you!... =)

When I fall in love, it will be....

Oh crap. Everyone's falling in love.

I'm not saying that I am in love, I'm just afraid of the whole situation right now. A good friend of mine is going through a major heartbreak while another good friend of mine has just found new love amidst the apparent see saw of events and I can't help but wonder how different the two emotions can be. I mean it's still love, just different ends of the spectrum.

I love the courting period. The "oh does she like me," and "oh I think she's thinking of me," moments. It's wonderful seeing my friend(s) finding someone they can share their heartfelt emotions with as though it's their first love all over again. We all know the feeling of getting that late night phone call from the one you love and how warm it feels whenever she calls you in the morning just to say hello. It's lovely, people.

I love the touch and go moments. The "Is that a sign?" and "No I don't think she meant anything by that" actions. Your heart skips a beat whenever she remembers something about you or if gives you a text message saying that a song on the radio reminded her of you. You get all jittery and start being soppy and weepy over silly love songs or tear jerker movies. Everything around you is 'her'. Smells, tastes, songs, the Nepalese guy who can't speak English.

I love all those things. Sheridan is in delirium right now with his new love and simply can't stop smiling. Another friend of mine in Perth has found love too and she thinks the world of him. A friend in Melbourne has finally found someone who understands and loves her for who she really is, and she can't wipe that grin of her face.

Learning something new from someone you love and growing as a team in spite of your shortcomings and apparent differences is the best part of falling in love. I'm so happy for all of you, I honestly have not seen you guys look any happier.

Here's a toast to those of you who have been fortunate enough to find the love of your dreams and may all your wishes continue to come true. Cheers.

My Reply to Ezar and Eddie!!...

What Eddie wrote is definately true...Mostly, 70% of our friends are in love with someone who is in love, or seeing, engaged or married to some other guys ( or girl, which ever complies to you) ...Well I know how is it feel!!...because iM one of that 70% stats... Even himself ( Eddie) falls in that percentage!...huhuuuhuhh

Being in the sidelines ( like Ezar mention ) is not on the pretty sight... The person you love, the person you adore, the person that you wanna grow old with is with someone else. And that someone else might not appreciate her like you do, and if she did, have to be happy for her!!... But not telling someone how you feel before its too late would eat your heart alive. Like the one in the movie Love Actually by Hugh Grant, when the part, when you best friend married to the girl you love... I just can feel the guy's feeling when he had to take pictures of the wedding...seeing the girl that he loves to his best friend.. But Eventually, he told how he felt for the girl, after the wedding of course!!...

Eddie wrote to me earlier, "Its easy for you to be in love from far rather than from near and then you'll be leaving far far away..."... to think of it again...he has a point!!... What would you be feeling when you love someone and then suddenly you had to leave!?...go thousand of miles away.... but if start from Far away... you have something to look forward when you coming back right?...

Telling someone how you feel also need a proper timing... Too sooon might chase the girl away, too long of a time might lose your opportunity!!... SO when is the right time to tell someone you love?~..

But maybe in MY case, the girl asked me... DO You really like me?...without hessitation...i said ...YES.. ..sure??...Definately SURE!!....there you have it!!...

SOmetimes the situation will be different... might take you 10 years to know your relationship status of being "Just Friends" or "My GF/BF " or " Companion" in that matter!!....

Love works in weird and kinda strange way... I dont say follow your luck...but by fate...and this fate is for you to know... not us from MEN ARE HERE...

Well..if you reading this... Yes...I DO LOVE you...althought We are far apart, you're always near to my heart. =)

iDAN

A Tale of Two *ities.

A year ago I was known as a stalwart for all things monogamous. I was the purveyor of all things loyal and sacred, going against convention was never part of the plan.

Yet today, more and more people have been going against the convention that i have built in my mind. I've dated someone who thought monogamy was a japanese paper folding art and even after finding out what it actually meant much later down the road, decided that while she liked the term it was her who ended up folding in many more ways than a paper duck ever could.

On average 70 percent of my friends are either in love with someone who's either seeing someone else, in the midst of a breakup, married or even uncertain of their attachment status'. Personally I would never have condoned the act of breaking someone elses relationship quite frankly because I've been on the receiving end more than once. The pain is real and it doesn't get better with time or with another subsequent break up.

Yes I've heard the "if people who are married can get a divorce..." line a million times. But do you really want to end up being the epicenter of the break up? What makes you so certain he/she won't leave you for a similar reason somewhere in the course of that relationship with you?

There is no certainty. Love has no warranty that it won't break down when you least expect it. Love has no return policy, and love definately has no satellite navigation system to 'get you out of the woods'. You can't choose who you fall for and how hard you stumble - it just simply happens. The action that you take determines the fate that you seal.

If you deliberately break up someone elses relationship for the selfish reasons of your own heart, then resign in the fact that one day it may very well happen to you. If you're willing to live with that, then by all means ladies and gentlemen you can quite literally have your own cake and eat it.

You can't choose who you fall in love with, but you can definately choose how. Take the moral high ground. Fall for him/her from afar, and wait for your chance. If fate plays its role, you won't fall far off the mark. You just need to have a chat with time to see if he'll play a role in it as well.

I once said that we should all be confidants to the ones we secretely admire. I also never knew how painful it could be to stare into the eyes of the person you think the world of and do absolutely nothing. Patience is certainly a virtue in this instance and patience pays in full with dividends if your intentions are honest.

Therefore I believe we should all learn to love a little more and lust a little less. Only then will we be able to understand the little nuances of the heart. Be a good person first and always. Then listen to your heart.

To persue or not to persue?

A lot of people say, I don't have preference in choosing a girlfriend. Well... all I can say is...yup...iM befriends to everyone!!!... The one that iM very choosey is choosing my special GF, which will eventually be, hopefully be the mother of my children.

I've always have the same situation if I'm in love. In love with someone who is attached with someone else or maybe they just want me to be their friend. But now, I think iM falling in Love again with someone who might be in love with me too. And theres always a But in the sentence, shes having a tough time with her BF. He has been neglecting her and always claiming that his single. I cant give her advice to dump him and be with me ...can i??... It wont make me a better person after all!!..

But how could you retain this feeling to yourself??...how could you not accidently say something that might be a "disaster" to your steps of getting her?!...

And If i dont say it to her....how could she knows that iM attracted to her?..and when its too late...you'll back to square one!!!

So...how would you handle this situation?...how would u be yourself?...