A Tale of Two *ities.
A year ago I was known as a stalwart for all things monogamous. I was the purveyor of all things loyal and sacred, going against convention was never part of the plan.
Yet today, more and more people have been going against the convention that i have built in my mind. I've dated someone who thought monogamy was a japanese paper folding art and even after finding out what it actually meant much later down the road, decided that while she liked the term it was her who ended up folding in many more ways than a paper duck ever could.
On average 70 percent of my friends are either in love with someone who's either seeing someone else, in the midst of a breakup, married or even uncertain of their attachment status'. Personally I would never have condoned the act of breaking someone elses relationship quite frankly because I've been on the receiving end more than once. The pain is real and it doesn't get better with time or with another subsequent break up.
Yes I've heard the "if people who are married can get a divorce..." line a million times. But do you really want to end up being the epicenter of the break up? What makes you so certain he/she won't leave you for a similar reason somewhere in the course of that relationship with you?
There is no certainty. Love has no warranty that it won't break down when you least expect it. Love has no return policy, and love definately has no satellite navigation system to 'get you out of the woods'. You can't choose who you fall for and how hard you stumble - it just simply happens. The action that you take determines the fate that you seal.
If you deliberately break up someone elses relationship for the selfish reasons of your own heart, then resign in the fact that one day it may very well happen to you. If you're willing to live with that, then by all means ladies and gentlemen you can quite literally have your own cake and eat it.
You can't choose who you fall in love with, but you can definately choose how. Take the moral high ground. Fall for him/her from afar, and wait for your chance. If fate plays its role, you won't fall far off the mark. You just need to have a chat with time to see if he'll play a role in it as well.
I once said that we should all be confidants to the ones we secretely admire. I also never knew how painful it could be to stare into the eyes of the person you think the world of and do absolutely nothing. Patience is certainly a virtue in this instance and patience pays in full with dividends if your intentions are honest.
Therefore I believe we should all learn to love a little more and lust a little less. Only then will we be able to understand the little nuances of the heart. Be a good person first and always. Then listen to your heart.
Yet today, more and more people have been going against the convention that i have built in my mind. I've dated someone who thought monogamy was a japanese paper folding art and even after finding out what it actually meant much later down the road, decided that while she liked the term it was her who ended up folding in many more ways than a paper duck ever could.
On average 70 percent of my friends are either in love with someone who's either seeing someone else, in the midst of a breakup, married or even uncertain of their attachment status'. Personally I would never have condoned the act of breaking someone elses relationship quite frankly because I've been on the receiving end more than once. The pain is real and it doesn't get better with time or with another subsequent break up.
Yes I've heard the "if people who are married can get a divorce..." line a million times. But do you really want to end up being the epicenter of the break up? What makes you so certain he/she won't leave you for a similar reason somewhere in the course of that relationship with you?
There is no certainty. Love has no warranty that it won't break down when you least expect it. Love has no return policy, and love definately has no satellite navigation system to 'get you out of the woods'. You can't choose who you fall for and how hard you stumble - it just simply happens. The action that you take determines the fate that you seal.
If you deliberately break up someone elses relationship for the selfish reasons of your own heart, then resign in the fact that one day it may very well happen to you. If you're willing to live with that, then by all means ladies and gentlemen you can quite literally have your own cake and eat it.
You can't choose who you fall in love with, but you can definately choose how. Take the moral high ground. Fall for him/her from afar, and wait for your chance. If fate plays its role, you won't fall far off the mark. You just need to have a chat with time to see if he'll play a role in it as well.
I once said that we should all be confidants to the ones we secretely admire. I also never knew how painful it could be to stare into the eyes of the person you think the world of and do absolutely nothing. Patience is certainly a virtue in this instance and patience pays in full with dividends if your intentions are honest.
Therefore I believe we should all learn to love a little more and lust a little less. Only then will we be able to understand the little nuances of the heart. Be a good person first and always. Then listen to your heart.
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